You Are Too Big To Fail.

you are too big to fail.

At the beginning of the year, I set one goal for myself: that I was going to find a new job and move out of Virginia. I wasn’t sure if I could do it, to be honest. I had been applying for jobs for over a year already, and had only gotten one interview. I also wasn’t totally sure where I wanted to move, so a lot of those applications were sort of half-hearted. So in March when Sixx moved to Nashville, it helped me to focus my search on one city and by the end of the summer, here I was.

I had a dream and a plan, and I broadcast it so publicly that I had to make it happen. It was too big to fail.


It wasn’t easy and there have definitely been some major potholes along the way, but I’m starting to really buy into all the dream it/do it manifestation stuff, because it’s really happening for me now. (I say this all very cautiously, because I’m a very superstitious person and I remain convinced that everything will fall apart at any minute ;) but I think the positivity thing is paying off. Being positive, deciding to be happy, and setting achievable goals are all helping me continue the forward motion I’m on and inspiring me to keep planning and making a push to have the life I want for myself.

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Am I struggling right now? Yeah, a little. But I decide every morning now to be happy and make the best of my day, and that helps too.

You should set goals that are Too Big To Fail, too. Find an accountability partner (hayyyy, Athena!). Force yourself to donate $1 for every time you say something mean about someone. Apply it to anything: a fitness goal, finding a new job, finances, moving to your dream city. When you find something that sets your heart on fire, you’re able to follow through and execute your dreams.

And if banks are too big to fail, you sure as hell are too.

How do you accomplish your big dreams?

Pancakes: an #adulting primer

Growing up, I LOVED pancakes. I remember every Saturday morning my mom would make stacks and stacks of them in our tiny kitchen and I would eat and eat them until I couldn’t eat any more. Even now, my favorite weekend in-home brunch is to cook up some pancakes and brew a pot of coffee and curl up in front of the DVR.

There’s a popular spot in Nashville called Pancake Pantry that is so popular that people line up for hours to get a table, and I had friends in town over the weekend who are big fans so on Sunday morning I bundled up and we waited for an hour before we were seated and served with menus.


Poor service aside, I was really not impressed with my pancakes. I didn’t say anything to them because the were all gloriously happy, but they didn’t taste any different than the box of Kroger pancakes I cook up at home.

At work the next day I told my co-workers, who had suggested going to Pancake Pantry a few weeks ago with Sixx, that I went and wasn’t crazy about it. Mouths agape, we started talking about pancakes and what makes a good pancake when almost everyone said the same thing to me: perhaps the real draw to Pancake Pantry for them is that they don’t know how to make their own pancakes.

This time I was in disbelief as they all started to tell me where their cakes went wrong. “One side is always burned!” “I cut into it and it’s still runny.” “When I pour it into the pan, it just spreads all over the whole thing.”

I started troubleshooting one by one and it occurred to me that maybe it would be good to provide a primer on the art of pancake making.

  • If your batter runs all over the pan: you have used too much water. Add more pancake mix, thicken it up, and enjoy your feast.
  • If one side of your pancake burns, your pan or griddle is too hot. Adjust the temperature down. Enjoy pancake bliss.
  • If your pancake is runny after cooking, you didn’t cook it long enough, dummy. Cook longer.

And that, my friends, is how to pancake.

A Day in the Life

It’s been a few months since my last A Day in the Life post, and things are quite different now! Follow me around last Thursday and check out how an Artist Relations/Venue Host’s day looks.

In my dream world, I’m able to sleep until 6:30, but there’s a car with muffler problems that conveniently parks right outside my open window, so at 5:30am, I wake up. I lay in bed for an hour checking e-mail, blogging, watching Netflix – as you do in the morning when you can’t sleep. By 7:10, I’m in my car and sitting in that great Nashville traffic I complain about all the time :) Once I get to work I make coffee and a cappucino, fill my water bottle, and prepare my day – I aim to be in the office at least 20 minutes before anyone else so I can clear my head and get myself ready.

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This is the biggest coffee cup I own, therefore it is my favorite. (These are also the biggest headphones I own.)

My job mostly entails processing artist submissions, so all day I listen to music (hence the giant headphones.) I evaluate and grade submissions and catalog them in a database to be passed on. I also work with artist managers and talent to coordinate mentorships as well as sponsors to oversee prize fulfillment with a little design and PR mixed in for good measure. (My job is pretty fucking cool, to be honest.) Right now we’re hiring interns and I’ll oversee that program as well. If anyone wants to move to Nashville and be my intern, holla! ;) By 8:30 I’ve taken stock of any overnight e-mails or submissions and it’s on to the second cup of coffee or espresso – repeat until around 12:30.

For lunch I either bring something from home or walk down to the nearby Kroger and pick something up. We go out as an office frequently which is nice, but today I headed to the grocery store and picked up a late lunch to eat in the office to compensate for not having time to eat dinner.


After lunch we usually have brainstorming sessions or casual office meetings. Today, it looked like this (I’m still totally loving Postmodern Jukebox):


Between 4:30 and 5 I wrap up my day and brave the Nashville traffic. It’s a Thursday and normally that would mean Shondaland date night with my BFF, but I’m working at the venue tonight. So instead of cuddling up on my couch with my laptop and Skype, I’m heading downtown to sling merch for the performers.


I’m settled and counted out by 11:30, and at that time I can usually get home in 20 minutes to be in bed by midnight with my cuddly pillow and Garbanzo, my stuffed camel.


What’s a day in your life like?

Tune Tuesday: Music Video Week


It’s been AAAAAAGES since my last Tune Tuesday post – we were overdue. For a bit of a change, here are some videos I’m loving this fall.

Tove Lo, “Stay High (Habits)”

you’re gone & I gotta stay high all the time to keep you off my mind… To merely say I love this song is not strong enough language. Sixx has been here for all of 48 hours and he already never wants to hear it again, since I have it on repeat basically nonstop. The music video is cool too.

Sam Smith, “I’m Not The Only One”

you say I’m crazy cause you don’t think I know what you’ve done, but when you call me baby, I know I’m not the only one Another great music video with my queen, Diana Agron, and king Danny Castellano. The video might be making a comeback guys, YouTube might actually bring back what MTV is forsaking us.

Vance Joy, “Riptide”

This song is finally everywhere and I love it – a friend introduced me to it a year ago and I love hearing it when I’m out and about. The music video is weird and apparently I’m into weird lately.

Panic! At the Disco, “It’s Almost Halloween”

Because of course. You can’t celebrate October without this jam.


DeathtoStock_Simplify3In changing jobs, my income took a big hit, so I’m working very hard to minimize spending and simplify my life. It’s really not easy for me even though I long to be a minimalist. In order to do this, I’m doing a couple different things.

Goodwill: Instead of listening to my gut when I moved and having that slightly longer commute in order to have a roommate, I moved in to a place on my own. It’s not fully furnished yet – I have a bed and couch and TV and a desk that I lugged over from Charlottesville, but I only have one (very dim) bedside lamp. There’s no microwave in my apartment. I’m trying to make do without some of these things in the hope of moving sooner rather than later, but for the times I get really frustrated with having to warm everything up on the stove or dressing by the light of a pink nightlight, I’ll be checking out Goodwill’s half-off Saturdays hoping for some scores. Ditto for new-to-me clothes.

Plato’s Closet, Poshmark, consignment stores: I purged a lot of stuff before I came to Nashville, but there are still things hanging in my closet that I never wear. Moreso now that I have a casual job where I wear jeans everday. I’m not going to fully purge my businesswear, but the things that I only wore as last resorts when I was too lazy to do laundry are definitely going. I’ve also found myself increasingly bored of a lot of my name-brand purses, so I’ve listed those on Poshmark and I’ll take them around to the consignment shops as I have time.

Cooking: It’s not that I was always really big on eating out, I typically only go out with someone else. But I am a lazy cooker, and it’s even worse sans microwave. I have a pantry full of food that just needs to be used up before it goes bad (or worse, before I have to drag it with me in another move.)

Working Out: I’m attempting to cancel the gym membership I signed up for when I moved for a variety of reasons (including harassment from an employee I encountered a few weeks ago and I haven’t been back since.) They’re trying to make me pay $97 to cancel, but I’m pushing back and hoping to get that down. Either way, instead of being a gym member, I’m going to try to utilize my complex’s “exercise room” (one treadmill and a weight machine) in the meantime.

Work as Entertainment: If I thought I was on a budget before, I had no idea. Now instead of going out, I work nights at a venue where I get to see shows. When I am home, I try to pick up as many design clients as I can (need graphics or a VA? Holla!) and sit on my couch while I work through orders.

When all of this happened at the beginning of last month, NP tried to really assure me that money isn’t everything. Now I have a job I love, and she’s right. Being happy is making it much easier to cope with the money situation, and I have friends that are pretty supportive as well and understand now when I don’t want to go out partying or suggest Netflix nights instead of movie dates. It’s nice to know that people will really be there for you if you just allow them to be.

How have you simplified your life?